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I can't believe that what I feel is really happening to me
Make it hurt
And point the finger at my insecurities
Well I guess I just don't understand about those complexities in your mind
And I guess I just don't understand why this world seems so unkind
Maybe just once I get what's coming to me.

**"Maybe Just Once" - Nine Inch Nails**

Wednesday, February 14, 2007

I don't like Valentine's Day for many reasons. One of those reasons being which it is a holiday that intentionally leaves people out and not because of differing religions. February 14th is just another jab in the gut to prove that it is socially unacceptable to be single. If you're not dating someone then there must be something wrong with you for no one to want to be with you. While the original reason for Valentine's Day was not to feel compelled to tell someone you love them, that is what it has become. It is also a gendered day. Women are not expected to get men anything, but we are expected to be greedy and demand material items and to be hurt and depressed if we do not receive anything from those we are involved with or if we do not have anyone to demand goods from.

It's hard for me to articulate the difficulties of being single to my roommate who has only ever had one boyfriend in her life and she is still with him. It is hard to explain in words of how someone who you put your utmost trust and faith in can reject you and everything you are, crushing you in an instant. She has never experienced that feeling of profound loss.

While I do appreciate the fact that she got me a February 14th gift, it's hard for me to say that I don't celebrate this "holiday" but to have her and other people continue to bombard me with Valentine's day items, even though all of them were very funny and sweet! I mean, we don't send Jewish people Christmas cards expecting them to just smile and sit through it. We don't expect Australians to set off fireworks on Canada Day. So why is it that a day like today, it is still seen as acceptable to press a celebration onto someone even if they do not believe in it?

Although it does seem trite to say that "every day should be Valentine's Day" instead of the idea of enforced affection that much of society is so fond of, to me, having a day specifically designed to make others feel like lesser beings just so that companies like Hallmark and Lindor can make big bucks irritates me and I choose not to be a part of it.

*stupid link of the day* Wiivenge: make them pay! so maybe be using this website as a personal venting place isn't quite what it was meant to be for
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